Alice on the vine

Alice from Yakima writes:

I have known Trevor since we were in grade 9. He was my BFF all through high school. We always hung out together and did almost everything together. I say almost, because he never kissed me, or even touched me in a way that could be construed as sexual. After I graduated I lost touch with him. I left for college and he went to work in his dad’s winery. Last week I returned to Yakima after four years absence, and guess who I met at the local pub. You got it, Trevor. He is so handsome, and his smile just melted me I was so happy to see him, and he seemed happy to see me. I asked him if he was married or had a girlfriend and he just laughed and said, “you know, Alice, there will never be anyone else for me but you. We are best friends for ever, remember?” I was shocked and thought he might be joking. He has never signalled that he was interested in me in that way, although I have given him plenty of signs about how I feel toward him. What should I do? I am afraid that if tell him how I feel that he won’t feel the same way and I will lose his friendship.

Sheepshag:

Ok, so listen up lover, sounds like your man is much like the wines he makes in Yakima, falling short of his potential.
Clearly Trev is into you or he wouldn’t have spent so much time with you. If this dude is as good looking and charming as you say, then there has to be a reason why some other chick hasn’t sucked on his grapes.
Lots of guys don’t have a clue about how to even approach the subject of doing it steady with a chick, much less setting up the wild thing. Sounds to me like Trevor’s that kind of dude. Take heart, some of the best catches out there fall into this category, so it’s going to be up to you to make a move.
As for worrying about losing his friendship, hell, don’t. Dudes like Trevor aren’t the kind to blow you off because you spit out your heart and hand it to him. Worst case, he’ll dust it off and hand it back, but I doubt that will be the outcome.
Watch how you go about this though. You want to come across smooth, like a fine Hermitage made from the Syrah grape; full-bodied with a hint of black currant, plums, and spices. Let him know you will go well with his filet mignon.
Try not to get too heavy like a Merlot, or you’ll muddy up the situation and he won’t enjoy the taste.
So you go, girl and let him see and feel your passion. Be the vintner that turns this mush into your main man. Press him firm but not too hard, and slowly let it ferment, but remember don’t let it age too long or you’ll be dealing with vinegar.

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